Hey girls! Today I’m gonna spill the tea on how I’ve been on this wild ride of building my confidence and unleashing that inner strength we all have hidden inside.
You know, there was a time when I was constantly doubting myself. Every decision I had to make felt like a huge mountain to climb. I’d look in the mirror and pick out all the things I didn’t like about myself. My hair wasn’t shiny enough, my body wasn’t the perfect shape, and my style? Well, let’s just say it was a hot mess. I was so caught up in what society deemed as “perfect” that I lost sight of my own awesomeness.
But then, something clicked. I realized that I was the only one holding myself back. I was the one giving power to those negative thoughts. So, I decided to take matters into my own hands and start this journey of self-discovery and confidence building.
One of the first things I did was to stop comparing myself to others. Oh my god, this was like a game-changer! We live in a world where we’re bombarded with images of these “perfect” women on social media. They have the perfect makeup, the perfect body, and the perfect life. But let’s be real, most of that is just a facade. We don’t see the behind-the-scenes struggles, the insecurities they might be hiding. When I stopped comparing myself to these seemingly flawless images, I started to focus on my own progress and growth. I began to appreciate the little things about myself that made me unique. Maybe my smile isn’t as straight as those models’, but it’s genuine and lights up my face when I’m truly happy. That’s something to be proud of!
Another thing that really helped me was stepping out of my comfort zone. I used to be the kind of girl who would stick to the same routine, the same group of friends, and the same activities. But I knew if I wanted to grow, I had to break free from that bubble. So, I signed up for a dance class even though I had two left feet. At first, I was so embarrassed. I felt like everyone was looking at me and judging me. But as the classes went on, I started to care less about what others thought and more about having fun and learning something new. And you know what? I actually got better! And that feeling of accomplishment, of overcoming my fear and doing something I never thought I could do, it boosted my confidence like crazy.
I also started to dress for myself. Before, I would always try to fit into the latest fashion trends, even if they didn’t really suit me. But now, I wear what makes me feel good. If I want to rock a pair of funky boots with a flowy dress, I’ll do it! If I feel like wearing bright colors on a gloomy day just to lift my mood, I go for it. Dressing in a way that reflects my personality and makes me feel confident has been such a huge part of this journey. It’s like I’m sending a message to the world that I’m comfortable in my own skin and I don’t need anyone’s approval to look and feel good.
And let’s not forget about the power of positive self-talk. This was something I really had to work on. I used to be my own worst critic. I’d say things like “I can’t do this” or “I’m not good enough” before I even tried. But now, I make a conscious effort to replace those negative thoughts with positive affirmations. When I’m facing a challenge, I tell myself “I’ve got this” or “I’m capable and strong”. It might sound a bit cheesy at first, but trust me, it works! Our minds are so powerful, and the words we say to ourselves can either build us up or tear us down. By choosing to speak kindly to myself, I’m creating a more positive and confident mindset.
Along this journey, I’ve also learned to embrace failure. We all make mistakes, and it’s so easy to let those failures define us. But instead of beating myself up over a setback, I now see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. For example, I once tried to start my own small business. It didn’t go as planned, and I ended up losing some money. At first, I was devastated. I felt like a failure. But then I realized that I had gained so much valuable experience from that attempt. I learned about marketing, customer service, and financial management. And I used that knowledge to make better decisions in my next endeavors. Failure is just a stepping stone on the path to success, and once I understood that, it took away a lot of the fear and self-doubt.
Now, I can honestly say that I feel more empowered than ever before. I walk into a room with my head held high, knowing that I am worthy and capable. I still have my off days, of course. There are still times when those old insecurities try to creep back in. But I’ve learned the tools to combat them and get back on track.
Girls, building confidence and unleashing your inner strength is not a one-time thing. It’s a continuous journey. But it’s so worth it! You are amazing just the way you are, and once you start believing in yourself, the world will start to see your awesomeness too. So, go out there and slay, because you’ve got this! 💖