So, here’s the tea ☕: dating in 2023 is… a lot. It’s like trying to solve a Rubik’s Cube blindfolded while someone keeps changing the colors. And let’s be real, we’ve all been there—swiping right, left, up, down, and somehow still ending up in a situationship that feels like a plot twist in a bad rom-com. But hey, I’ve learned a thing or two (okay, maybe a lot) along the way, and I’m here to spill it all.
First off, let’s talk about the elephant in the room: dating apps. Love them or hate them, they’re pretty much the norm now. But here’s the thing—they’re not the magic solution to finding “the one.” They’re more like a buffet: tons of options, but not everything is going to taste good. I’ve had my fair share of matches that fizzled out faster than a sparkler on the Fourth of July. And let’s not even get started on the ghosting. Why do people think it’s okay to just vanish into thin air? Like, at least have the decency to say, “Hey, I’m not feeling it.”
But here’s the silver lining: dating apps have taught me a lot about what I don’t want. And that’s just as important as knowing what you do want. For example, I’ve learned that I’m not into people who can’t hold a conversation. If your idea of flirting is sending “hey” and nothing else, I’m out. I need someone who can keep up with my sarcasm and actually has something interesting to say.
Now, let’s talk about the dreaded first date. The pressure to make a good impression is real, but here’s my advice: just be yourself. I know, it sounds cliché, but it’s true. I’ve gone on dates where I tried to be this perfect, polished version of myself, and it always backfired. Either I came off as boring, or I was so nervous that I couldn’t even enjoy the moment. The best dates I’ve had are the ones where I just let loose and had fun. If they don’t like the real you, then they’re not worth your time anyway.
Another lesson I’ve learned is the importance of setting boundaries. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new connection and let things slide, but trust me, it’s not worth it. If someone is disrespecting your time or your feelings, speak up. You deserve to be treated with respect, and if they can’t handle that, then they’re not the one for you.
And let’s not forget about the importance of self-love. I used to think that I needed to be in a relationship to feel complete, but that’s not true. Being single is an opportunity to focus on yourself and figure out what you really want out of life. I’ve spent the last year working on my own goals and hobbies, and it’s been so rewarding. Plus, when you’re happy with yourself, you’re more likely to attract someone who’s a good match for you.
One thing that’s really helped me navigate the dating world is having a solid support system. My friends have been my sounding board through all the ups and downs, and I’m so grateful for them. Whether it’s venting about a bad date or celebrating a new connection, having people who have your back makes all the difference.
And finally, here’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned: dating is a journey, not a destination. It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of finding “the one,” but the truth is, it’s about the experiences along the way. Every date, every conversation, every heartbreak—it’s all part of the process. And even though it can be frustrating at times, I’ve come to appreciate the lessons I’ve learned and the person I’m becoming.
So, to all my fellow single ladies out there: keep your head up. Dating can be messy, but it’s also an opportunity to grow and learn more about yourself. And who knows? The right person might be just around the corner. Until then, keep swiping, keep laughing, and most importantly, keep being your fabulous self. 💃