Okay, let’s get real for a second. Modern dating is like trying to solve a Rubik’s Cube blindfolded while someone’s shouting confusing instructions at you. 🎲🤷‍♀️ You think you’ve got it figured out, and then BAM—someone ghosts you after three amazing dates, or you realize the guy who said he “loves hiking” actually just likes Instagramming mountain views. 🏞️📸
So, here’s the tea: I’ve been in the trenches of modern dating for a while now, and let me tell you, it’s a wild ride. But along the way, I’ve picked up some dos and don’ts that have saved my sanity (and maybe even my soul). Let’s dive in, shall we?
First off, DO trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is. I once went on a date with a guy who seemed perfect on paper—great job, killer smile, loved dogs. 🐶 But something about the way he kept interrupting me felt… icky. Turns out, he was also “casually” dating three other women and didn’t see the need to mention it. 🙃 Lesson learned: your intuition is your best wingman.
On the flip side, DON’T overanalyze every text message. I used to be that girl who’d spend hours decoding whether “Hey, what’s up?” meant he was into me or just bored. 🤔 Spoiler alert: it usually means he’s bored. But here’s the thing—dating shouldn’t feel like a CIA investigation. If someone’s interested, they’ll make it clear. Period.
Another DO: set boundaries early. I know, I know—it’s tempting to play it cool and go with the flow, but trust me, boundaries are sexy. 🚦 For example, if you’re not into hookups, say so. If you need a guy who’s emotionally available, don’t settle for less. I once dated someone who was “too busy” to text me back for days, and guess what? He wasn’t too busy to post Instagram stories of his weekend brunches. 🥞📱 Boundaries aren’t just about protecting your time; they’re about respecting yourself.
Now, for a big DON’T: don’t let dating apps dictate your self-worth. I’ve been there—swiping endlessly, feeling like I’m auditioning for a role I didn’t even want. 🎭 But here’s the truth: your value isn’t determined by how many matches you get or how many dates you go on. Dating apps are just tools, not judges. If you’re feeling burned out, take a break. Your future self will thank you.
One thing I’ve learned is that modern dating is all about balance. DO put yourself out there, but DON’T lose yourself in the process. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of meeting someone new, but remember: you’re the main character in your story, not a supporting role in theirs. 💁‍♀️✨
And finally, DO have fun. Yes, dating can be frustrating, but it can also be hilarious, enlightening, and even empowering. I’ve had dates that felt like stand-up comedy routines and others that felt like therapy sessions. 🛋️😂 And you know what? I wouldn’t trade those experiences for anything. They’ve taught me so much about what I want (and what I definitely don’t want).
So, here’s my advice: approach modern dating with curiosity, not desperation. Be open to new experiences, but don’t compromise on your values. And most importantly, remember that you’re not alone in this crazy, beautiful, messy journey. We’re all just trying to figure it out, one swipe at a time. 💌