Okay, ladies, let’s get real for a second. Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “Who even am I?” Or maybe you’ve been in a situation where you felt like you didn’t belong, like you were just faking it until (hopefully) you made it? Yeah, me too. 🙋‍♀️
I used to be the queen of self-doubt. I’d overthink every decision, second-guess every word I said, and constantly compare myself to others. It was exhausting. But then, something shifted. I realized that confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. And let me tell you, the journey to finding my inner strength has been one of the most empowering experiences of my life.
So, how did I do it? Well, it wasn’t overnight, and it definitely wasn’t easy. But here’s the thing: confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about embracing your imperfections and owning who you are. For me, it started with small, everyday actions. Like, I stopped apologizing for things that weren’t my fault. (Seriously, why do we do that?) I started setting boundaries and saying no when I needed to. And I made a conscious effort to celebrate my wins, no matter how small they seemed.
One of the biggest game-changers for me was learning to silence my inner critic. You know that voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough? Yeah, that one. I started challenging those negative thoughts and replacing them with positive affirmations. Instead of thinking, “I can’t do this,” I’d tell myself, “I’m capable, and I’m learning.” It sounds cheesy, but it works.
Another thing that helped was surrounding myself with people who uplifted me. I used to hang out with people who made me feel small, whether they meant to or not. But once I started prioritizing relationships that made me feel good about myself, my confidence skyrocketed. It’s amazing how much of a difference it makes when you’re around people who genuinely believe in you.
Oh, and let’s not forget about self-care. I used to think self-care was all about bubble baths and face masks (which, don’t get me wrong, are great), but it’s so much more than that. For me, self-care means taking care of my mental and emotional health. It means giving myself permission to rest, to make mistakes, and to just be human.
Now, I’m not saying I’ve got it all figured out. There are still days when I feel insecure or unsure of myself. But the difference is, I don’t let those feelings define me anymore. I’ve learned to see them as temporary, like clouds passing through the sky. And on the days when I’m feeling particularly badass, I remind myself of how far I’ve come.
So, if you’re reading this and thinking, “I wish I had her confidence,” let me tell you something: you can. It’s not about being fearless; it’s about being brave enough to take the first step. Start small. Celebrate your wins. Surround yourself with positivity. And most importantly, be kind to yourself.
Because here’s the truth: you are enough. You always have been. And when you start believing that, there’s no limit to what you can achieve.