So, here’s the thing: parenting is wild. Like, one minute you’re Googling “how to get a toddler to eat broccoli,” and the next, you’re trying to figure out how to raise a human who’s strong, confident, and ready to take on the world. 😅 It’s a lot. But over the years, I’ve learned that parenting with purpose isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being intentional. And let me tell you, it’s been a journey.
Let’s start with the big one: confidence. I used to think confidence was something you were either born with or not. Spoiler alert: it’s not. Confidence is built, and as parents, we play a huge role in laying that foundation. One thing I’ve noticed is how much kids mirror our behavior. If I’m constantly second-guessing myself or apologizing for existing, guess what? My kids pick up on that. So, I’ve made it a point to model confidence, even when I don’t feel it. Fake it till you make it, right?
But here’s the kicker: confidence isn’t just about self-esteem. It’s also about resilience. I want my kids to know that it’s okay to fail—actually, it’s more than okay. It’s necessary. Failure is where the magic happens. So, when my 7-year-old didn’t make the soccer team, we talked about it. I didn’t sugarcoat it or blame the coach. Instead, we focused on what she could learn from the experience. And you know what? She’s already talking about trying out again next season. That’s the kind of grit I want her to carry into adulthood.
Now, let’s talk about strength—not just physical strength, but emotional and mental strength, too. In a world that’s constantly telling kids how to look, act, and think, I want mine to be strong enough to stand their ground. One way I’m doing this is by teaching them to embrace their individuality. For example, my son loves wearing mismatched socks. At first, I’ll admit, I tried to “fix” it. But then I realized: why? If it makes him happy and doesn’t hurt anyone, who cares? So now, we celebrate his sock choices. It’s a small thing, but it’s teaching him that it’s okay to be different.
Another thing I’ve learned is the importance of setting boundaries—not just for my kids, but for myself, too. Parenting with purpose means knowing when to say no, even when it’s hard. Like, when my daughter begged for a phone at 8 years old, I had to put my foot down. It wasn’t popular, but I knew it was the right call. And you know what? She’s thanked me for it since. Okay, maybe not directly, but she’s definitely appreciated the extra time to just be a kid.
Of course, none of this is easy. There are days when I feel like I’m failing at everything. But here’s the thing: parenting isn’t about getting it right all the time. It’s about showing up, even when it’s messy. It’s about being present, even when you’re exhausted. And it’s about loving your kids fiercely, even when they’re driving you up the wall.
One of the most powerful tools I’ve found is open communication. I want my kids to feel like they can talk to me about anything—and I mean anything. So, I’ve made it a point to create a safe space for those conversations. Whether it’s about school, friendships, or the tough stuff like bullying or self-doubt, I want them to know I’m here for them. And sometimes, that means listening more than talking.
Another thing I’ve embraced is the power of “yet.” As in, “You’re not good at math yet,” or “You haven’t figured it out yet.” That little word has been a game-changer in our house. It’s a reminder that growth takes time, and that’s okay. It’s also a reminder that I’m still learning, too.
At the end of the day, parenting with purpose is about raising kids who are not just strong and confident, but also kind, empathetic, and unapologetically themselves. It’s about giving them the tools they need to navigate this crazy world, while also letting them know that it’s okay to stumble along the way.
So, to all the parents out there doing their best: you’re doing better than you think. Keep showing up, keep loving your kids, and keep being intentional. Because at the end of the day, that’s what matters most. 💕